TO FIND THE RIGHT MATE


The scripture says “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.  Hebrews 13:4” “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtained favour of the LORD.  Proverbs 18:22”
God in the beginning ordained marriage and the family unit as the first and most important institution on earth. Man and woman were charge of being fruitful and ruling over the earth and Animal kingdom. Man and woman were created to form family relationships. This stated purpose of God creation indicates that He considers a godly family and the raising of children of utmost priority in the world. The future of the earth was placed under the dominion of man and woman.
THINGS MARRIED WILL NOT DO FOR YOU.
Married will not take away your loneliness: some people can be lonely in the midst of people. Some are lonely in their working place. Loneliness is the attitude of the heart. If you want to married because you are always lonely then you need to change your mind set. Some married men and women they are most lonely people in the world. To choose not to be lonely is you decision. When you decide not to be lonely from your heart then you can see the best of your life. The goal of married is oneness.
Married is not sex day and night: Married is about sharing together, paying school fee, cleaning together, cooking, loving one another, praying together, empowering each other, correcting one another, setting up some goal to achieve together. Having sex with your partner is good but married is not only about sex. Average couples have sex 2 or 3 time a week. While some couples they don’t even have the time to have sex 1 in a week because they are busy planning to achieve some goal.
Married does not change anybody: you can change your dress, school, cars and so on. But married cannot change your real personality.  Married expose who you are. Married amplify who you are. Michele Obama said “Been a president doesn’t really change who you are, but it expose you to the world who you are.” If you are a positive person, married will expose you. If you are negative person, married will also expose you.
Being a Christian it’s a help to make your married work: Christianity is a great help to make you have a happy home but it does not guarantee you that as far you married a church person you will not have issue in you married. Been a Christian helps to handle some family issue with the wisdom and the knowledge of the Holy Ghost.
Married will not make you complete: Married does not complete anybody
Married does not remove temptation: Satan is our greatest enemy of our family. As Christians, we must be aware that we are engage in spiritual warfare with unseen but very real power of evil that is against the peace of our family. Without the Holy Spirit and proper use of God’s word in overcoming temptation: realize that through the word of God you have the power to resist any appeal Satan can make in your family (John 15:3, 7). Memories the word of God in your heart. Pray for the grace God for you to overcome any temptation that will comes your way. Decide from your heart to be faithful to your spouse.
THINGS TO DO TO HAVE A RIGHT MATE.
Keep Jesus First in your life. Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you including a right mate (Matthew 6:33). Love God with all your heart. Delight thyself also in the Lord; and He shall give thee the desire of thine heart. Trust in God for a right mate and you will have it (Psalm 37:4,5). When you seek God with all your heart, God will give you a right mate.
Ask God definitely for a right mate: Pray for God to bless you with a right mate. Ask, and it shall be given you;… (Matthew 7:7). This mean we must keep on asking God for a right mate.  Ask of Me, and I shall give thee the heathen for thine inheritance, and the uttermost parts of the earth for thy possession. (Psalm 2:8)  When God answer you with a wonderful mate you will enjoy your married. A lot of People want easy way to be married without spending their time and pray for the right mate, that why a lot of families are collapsing.
Believe God for a right mate: The process that you use to believe God for other things that you are looking for, apply the same process when you are seeking for a right mate. Find some scripture and apply it when you are praying e.g. Proverbs 18:22, 19:14 Matthew 7:7. To have the right mate is a favour from God then, ask God to favour you with a right mate. Live to believe God that he will answer you with a right mate.
Knowing that married is not an escape mechanism: don’t think to married because you want to escape from your parent or sibling trouble. If you try to treat married as escape mechanism you will fall in the same hand you are trying to escape. Go into married with the mind of love and with readiness to work out your married.
Be led by the Holy Spirit: physical things like Houses, Cars, good career…. All these are good but would not give you the right mate. Allow the Holy Spirit to guide and direct you. They are two things that make up who you married: what you see about the person and what you don’t see about the person. When Adam sees Eve he said this is the flesh of my flesh and the burns of my burns. You can see and torch the flesh but you can’t see the burns and remember the burns are the pillars of the body. Don’t allow your flesh to choose by what he has; good job, cars, good figure in the bank, the family background and so on all these things are good but they will not tell you about the future. When you allow God to take charge of your life, the Holy Spirit will give you a right mate. God is in charge of those things that you cannot see. God is in charge of the future so trust Him for a wonderful mate.
Understand the season of your life: To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: (Ecclesiastes 3:1) God take our life through season not years. Understand the season of your life. When your season passes you stop going around. When the right person come to you in your season and you reject him you will be the one going after him in future. If you discover your season has passes, ask God for a second chance, bring your standard down-don’t comprises yourself, ask for extra help from your counselor or pastor, be approachable, be accessible, be attractive, stop moving around with married people, pray about and be yourself.
When certain don’t procrastinate: when the right person that you know already that he will come and ask you for a relationship don’t procrastinate to accept him. And make it clear to those that are not the best for to stop coming to you. When you accept him without delay or try to play him before you accept him it does not make you cheap. And any person that regard you so cheap give him/her a red card and believe God for the right person and God will send the right person to you.


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